Have you ever found yourself asking this question??
Perhaps you ask it about a particular day.
About a particular meeting.
About a situation.
About a moment in time.
The real question is….What is IT?
When we are going through a divorce, we seem to ask ourselves this question over and over again….thinking that the “IT” is the divorce.
However, once the divorce is over, this little question does not stop nudging us.
Have you ever felt this way?
My own experience had me asking this question about everything and yet, I could not figure out what the “IT” was.
First it was the tension in my marriage.
Then it was the divorce.
Then it was the financial worries.
Then it was about being single.
Then it was about co-parenting.
Eventually, my own journey led me to my answer. Two little words that now form the foundation for my attitude about my life and my journey.
Are you ready? Here they are:
“IT” doesn’t end. “IT” is your life.
Each moment, day, week, month, experience forms the beautiful fabric that is your life.
This life has ups;
Every conceivable emotion.
“IT” is never going to end, but it’s what you do with “IT” that creates your own journey.
Learning to LIVE FULLY while you experience all that comes your way is what empowers us.
CHOICE is our greatest gift. The choice to decide what comes next. The ability to choose and make a decision when necessary.
For those of you who are asking yourself, When will it end? Make today the last day that you will ask this question. Rather, hop into the driver’s seat! YOU get to choose when “IT” ends.
You may not be able to make your divorce final…but you can decide how each day looks for you. YOU have control over your emotions, your choices, the way you spend your time, your finances, your attitude, your relationships with friends, children and family….it is all within your control!
And if you are struggling to get out of the rut that you are in, that is where I come in!
Don’t do it alone!
Don’t wait one more minute!
Give yourself the gift of MAKING IT END!
Having been there and experienced all that you are…I can say with confidence that you have all of the power to live each day with joy and fulfillment…whatever your divorce situation! I promise!
Here’s to the neverending!
Laura’s passion and true life purpose is supporting women to reclaim the life that they imagine and deserve. Laura is the founder of The D Spot, LLC, dedicated to helping women regroup, renew and reinvent themselves before, during and after divorce. She is a Divorce Expert and Life Transition Consultant and author of Divorce is a Journey Guide and companion journal. She holds an MBA from New York University’s Stern School of Business and has over 15 years in non-profit management. Launched in 2008 is her “Divorce Mastery System: 9 Steps to Reclaiming the Life you Imagine and Deserve”.
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